Learning To Fail
It’s actually not about failure, it’s about learning to reframe and GROW…
"When We Give Ourselves Permission To Fail, we, At The Same Time, Give Ourselves Permission To Excel."
Eloise Ristad
How do we learn to fail… to get things wrong and then move on?
It’s actually not about learning to fail, but instead, learning FROM failing… because this is where true growth lives!
Steve has been helping me do some weight training recently… not that I want to be some competitor female geriatric body builder, but there is a lot of research out there that supports the positive effects of weight-exercises on bone health and density as we age, and well quite frankly I’m not ready to give in to this at the age of 43, but thanks to the cancer treatment, onset of medical menopause and hormone treatment, I’m already feeling the old-lady aches and pains!
Anyway… Steve has set me up with a full-body workout and suggested I do three sets of each exercise, the first as a warm up, the second as a manageable set and the third heavier so that I can’t get to a full 10-reps, but just do as many as I can comfortably manage… until I technically ‘fail’.
And well, that sent me wanting to dash off in the opposite direction!
I don’t want to fail!
I don’t like failing!
Failing feels uncomfortable!
Failing means failure… it means I can’t do something… it means I’m no good…
But Steve explained that this last set, the one where I do fail, is actually what’s going to bring strength and growth!
And that helped me to see it differently… it’s not actually about failing to do something, it’s about turning our attention to the positive after-effects, the growth that we experience moving forward…
Failing in life
How many times in life do we consider that we’ve failed at something… and we berate ourselves, criticise ourselves and end up with that tight uncomfortable knot in our stomachs… yet if we look at it differently, and see what we could learn from that so-called ‘failure’, see how it can help us, guide us, and empower us, then perhaps it’s not failure at all…
Perhaps it’s an opportunity… an opportunity to grow and learn, to build strength and resilience along the way!
Perhaps we should reframe it, instead of learning to fail…
We’re learning to FLOURISH!
Think about the times in your life that you felt you failed, and see if you can reframe it.
What did you learn?
How did you move forward?
How did you grow from it?
Take care and much love,
Julie x
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Ohhh. Wonderful analogy..."failing" on purpose to build strength and resilience!
Love it Julie 😘